Why I No Longer Help Others For Free

“I’ve made $300 more profit  in the last 8 days”

“… because of you, I just made my first $1,000 ever online.”

“I just paid for my house in cash… ”

” .. never thought I would be making $30,000 a day, every day, on …”

People I have helped online over the years have ended up with some phenomenal life changing stories.

I’ve spent countless hours helping people online randomly via email, instant messenger, phone, and even face to face. Almost all of them come back and let me know how my advice and guidance has helped them get to the next level in their life.

100% of the time, I did it for free.

I genuinely want to help people; I actually get a buzz from helping someone overcome their obstacles.

However, it seems to be a growing trend that those you help either don’t take the advice, or never give back to you when you need it.

Now, lets break this down….

 

They Don’t Take The Advice

I get it. Maybe my advice wasn’t 110% to your liking, lifestyle, or ability right now.

But here’s the thing, I can’t get my time back from helping you.

Sure, this “online thing” might be easy for me and only take me a few minutes to explain to you, but those minutes added up over time can compound into weeks and months I didn’t put effort into something else. Things like other business ventures, time with family, or just whatever could have fancied me at the time, like sleeping.

Time is money, so giving time and attention to you means I’m losing somewhere else. It’s costing me money to think about your issue and help you figure things out.

Also, you are not the only person asking for advice.

So when I spend time to give you free advice and you don’t take it, I pretty much lump you into a mindset that you are stealing from me.

Stealing away time and attention I could put elsewhere.

 

Not Giving Back

These are the people that really get under my skin.

You would think that someone who went from almost being evicted to making over $5k a day with advice and guidance you gave them for free would at least help you out when you ask for a favor, right?

Nope. And it’s a growing trend.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not the Godfather and only giving out advice for free because I expect a payback from you in the future.

But it does sting a bit when I ask for some help from them and I get shot down like some stranger on a street corner begging for change.

For the last few weeks, I have been asking for testimonials or advice in other areas that I know the people I helped in the past actually excel in. Over 90% of them couldn’t find the time or a good enough reason to help me when I needed something from them.

I get really crazy responses back like, “That’s my secret sauce, I can’t share it” or “I don’t feel comfortable doing that” and even “I’m on vacation right now, hit me back in 3 weeks“.

Vacation? Just 6 months ago you were about to be homeless before I stepped in and helped you at the last minute….. you can’t spare 10 minutes to help me? The vacation you’re on wouldn’t have even been possible without me helping you earn that money to pay for it.

It really has become the old marketing cliche of, “Everyone is only interested in themselves“.

 

How Things Have Changed

I grew up in a time where helping others and caring really meant something. This concept, plus working a job for 40+ years,  and playing by the books was something that was supposed to get you somewhere in life and was admired by others.

But things have changed since that era.

Employers no longer want you around for more than 5 years and they constantly ask for your advice and guidance, but hardly ever implement or reward you for it. They look at you as a replaceable cog where they hire you in, extract your skills and ideas to the fullest, and then replace you with a cheaper intern who takes over what you built for them.

Co-workers are more interested in watching Game of Thrones during work hours and chatting with their friends on Facebook then helping do their part on team projects.

Younger kids today are tied up in trying to get things they think they deserve handed to them, than coming up with ways to earn the things they want and need.

People today just care about “what’s in it for me”. There is no regard for the other person(s) at all.

It doesn’t make sense to play by the rules of 30 years ago when the entire game strategy has changed and the players have become selfish.

 

I hated to have to come to this decision.

The ugly truth is that there are many broke “tire kickers” who demand your attention and time like it’s some free commodity that they deserve to take from you. Even worse, they have no boundaries when asking for it.

When something is free, it’s regarded as not important and “cheap”. My time and advice is neither of those.

When you make someone pay for something, it instantly becomes much more valuable and a pain point is created that they must take action on the advice. It’s much more important to them and something not to waste since wasting the advice means the buyer has now wasted their money ( aka time and attention ) on it.

People who are willing to put up money are serious players who will respect your time and attention.

Spending 1 on 1 time with people for free just isn’t an effective use of my time and resources. Giving out generalized advice on this blog or my products ends up helping more people and using fewer resources from my end.

Thanks for understanding.

 

Hi! I'm Jason Brown and I’m a 36 year old digital marketing intrapreneur living in beautiful Louisville, Kentucky. I've been involved with the Internet since 1996 and have personally made millions online with my creative marketing tactics and persistence. I blog about marketing, money, and motivation. Thanks for stopping by!

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